At the gym — Your local gym (especially the one you already belong to) is the perfect place to meet other health conscious singles. People at the gym are already interested in the healthy and active lifestyle you want. People who take the time to go to the gym and improve their bodies are also willing to work out in front of others. This means they’re super receptive to making new friends.
Go to a park — Setting up a blanket post-workout at a park near your house is good for people watching and healthy singles meeting. If nothing else, there will be plenty of healthy bodies running by for you to enjoy.
Join a church — If you’re not religious there are even churches you can join — look up the local Unitarian church for a group of like minded and usually healthy people to meet. Most churches these days have health clubs or even in-house gyms where you can meet other healthy singles. People who care about their spiritual well being tend to be more healthy.
Volunteer — When you get active with a charity or volunteer group, you improve your own life and give yourself a chance to be involved with healthy people. Habitat for Humanity requires active participation, so that’s a great place to find physically fit singles. People who volunteer are open minded and generally concerned with some aspect of health, be it physical or mental.
Take an evening class or lesson — Community colleges in your area have plenty of night classes or other activities in which you can enrich yourself and meet single people. Whether you want to take a class in dance, art, music, or whatever topic, college campuses are full of healthy people of all ages looking to make new friends.
Join an environmental group — Environmentalists tend to be healthier than the average population — people with a “green” lifestyle are naturally healthier and take care of their bodies and minds. Looking for a healthy single that is in tune with nature? Try joining a local environmentally minded group.
Check out the farmer’s market — When you buy from the farmer’s market, you’re supporting local agriculture and eating healthier food. Thus, people at the farmer’s market tend to be healthier than those at the grocery store. Looking for healthy eaters? Meet new friends at the farmer’s market.
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So once you meet someone, what is the next step? Here are some pointers:
- Instead of going out to dinner or a movie, have your date meet you for lunch or coffee. Dinners are more "intimate" than a casual lunch in the middle of the day. Movies are dark and intimate. There is no opportunity to talk and get to know each other.
- Continue to meet at some of the same locations where you initially met, like the gym, church, volunteer locations.
- Each person should pay his/her own way.
- Go to gatherings together. Try not to spend too much time alone because either it will feel awkward, or there will be expectations.
- Play games like Conversation Pieces, to encourage self-disclosure.
- Stay away from sexual topics, religion (unless you met at church), and politics.
- Engage in activities that are out-of-the-box, like Painting With A Twist, or skydiving!
- If you do decide to make the relationship sexual, USE PROTECTION and don't be shy about TALKING about sex. Remember, if you take that step, you will be engaging in the most intimate, personal activity that you ever will (with someone that you do not know well).
What are some RED FLAGS?
- Be aware of a person who tells you his/her whole life story in one or two dates! This suggests that the person has boundary issues.
- Be aware of liars! Of course, you should expect a person to be a little guarded, but not blatantly lying.
- Be aware of any signs of jealousy or possessiveness.
- Pay close attention to rebound people. They are vulnerable and have baggage.
- Pay attentions to any signs of mental health issues, alcoholism, and substance abuse.
Erin
Another beware of situation I found when I was single was the "set-up dates" (blind or not). Because you can meet some of the weirdest ones this way and then it becomes awkward when you're trying to explain to your friend or neighbor why you don't want to go out with their "wonderful" cousin, uncle, brother, etc....
ReplyDeleteWhat are your thoughts about getting to know or date someone at work? What should you be aware of? Thanks.
ReplyDeleteMost employers frown upon this. Check the policies of your employer. There may be issues of sexual harassment/hostile work environment, which puts an employer at legal risk. For example, if a person in a supervisory position (any supervisory position) engages in an intimate relationship with a subordinate, this can lead to legal ramifications and termination.
ReplyDeleteIt is sometimes grounds for reprimand, including termination if a person uses the company computers for emailing, or engages in other nonwork-related comunications such as texting and phoning.
And what about the relationship itself? How will both parties go about concealing it from everyone else? How will it impact your job performnce? What if there is a conflict, or a break-up?
So one must decide what is more important, the job/career or having a relationship with someone at work? Erin A. Alexander, LPC
Thanks for sharing these awesome reasons. If you are Single? Desperate? Dumped? Kicked out?
ReplyDeleteNo matter what your situation, age, height, weight or physical appearance, you still can meet people online thus you have the opportunity to build short term and long term relationships.