Tuesday, June 28, 2011

Fabulous article on Forgiveness

How Radical Forgiveness Works - By Colin C. Tipping

Ordinary forgiveness is 'letting bygones be bygones'. A certain willingness to forgive is implied but the belief something wrong happened is never questioned. "You did that to me, but I'll let you off the hook and forgive you."

Research based at Seattle University, WA showed that ordinary forgiveness:

(a) is universally difficult.

(b) takes a long time - typically years. (Success was defined as finally feeling peaceful about the situation.)

(c) The more people tried to 'will' forgiveness, the longer it took.

(d) Most people required extensive therapy before any movement occurred at all.

Radical Forgiveness, on the other hand, has none of these difficulties. It can be virtually instantaneous; it is easy to do; it requires no therapy and very little intelligence beyond being able to follow some very simple steps.

Holding on to the belief that 'a crime' has occurred while trying to forgive gives traditional forgiveness the quality of an oxymoron. How can you can possibly forgive if you are invested in that judgment? No wonder it takes years! Qualities of compassion, humility and tolerance move us towards it, but they do not, in my view, constitute forgiveness itself. So when it does finally occur maybe time has simply worn down our attachment to our judgments. When we say "time heals" perhaps we are recognizing that we will someday simply become weary of holding on. But oh, what a struggle!

Radical Forgiveness, on the other hand, is easy and instantaneous because it is a shift in perception that allows you to understand that, in truth, looked at from the perspective of the spiritual 'big picture,' nothing wrong ever happened.

What brings about such a radical shift in perception - especially in situations where one feels very victimized and hurt? Surprisingly, it requires only a willingness to accept the possibility that life is not simply a series of random and haphazard events but is, in fact, the unfolding of a Divine plan that is unfolding for us exactly how it needs to unfold for our spiritual growth. In other words, every event, however pleasant or unpleasant, has been called forth by a Higher Aspect of ourselves that knows exactly what we need for our own healing. When we live more out of that idea than the victim story, life begins to work perfectly.

So how do we get there? Well, lack of forgiveness is nothing more than stuck energy, caused by past judgments, criticisms, blame and resentments. The way forward is use tools or processes that help us release that stuck energy, raise our vibration and become the loving beings we have the potential to be.
THE PROCESS OF RADICAL FORGIVENESS
In my workshops, I help people to shift the energy and move into Radical Forgiveness by basically following these five steps:

1. Tell the Story
You must begin from where you are. You are a spiritual being having a human experience that involves emotional experiences. We make it up that emotions are undesirable and wrong, so when we get upset about something we make up a 'victim's story' and blame others for our unhappiness. Having that story heard and witnessed is the first step to letting it go. Likewise, the first step in releasing victimhood is to own it fully. So, in this step, you tell your story, and it is honored as your truth in the moment.

2. Feel the Feelings
Here you are encouraged to feel the feelings. It is the vital step that many so-called spiritual people want to leave out thinking that they shouldn't have 'negative' feelings. That's denial and misses the crucial point that the feelings is where the authentic power is and that our strength, in fact, lies in our vulnerability and our willingness to show up as fully human. You cannot heal what you don't feel. When people access their pain, this is the beginning of their healing.
But this is not necessarily digging up the past. In fact, doing so is not necessary at all. Whatever is upsetting you now represents the past and following the feelings (the energy), as they are occurring while you tell your story, automatically heals the past pain. It is not even necessary to know what the original pain was. That's why I say that Radical Forgiveness requires no therapy.

3. Collapse the Story
This takes the power out of the victim story you made up. The Navajo Indians had a ceremony for doing this. Anyone with a grievance could come to the circle three times to tell their story, and they would be heard. On the fourth occasion everyone would turn their backs. "Enough already! Your story is just a story. There's no real truth to it - it is just an illusion. We have heard it three times and we no longer wish to give it power. Let it go and then let yourself move towards what is really true."

4. Do a Radical Forgiveness Reframe
Here we replace the 'illusionary' story with another story - the Radical Forgiveness 'story.' This one says that what appeared to have happened, far from being a tragedy, was in fact exactly what we wanted to experience and was in that sense, absolutely perfect.

This is often very difficult to accept, but the good thing is it does not require you see WHY it is perfect, or that you must GET the lesson involved. It is nearly always beyond our ability to comprehend anyway, so it's a waste of time trying to figure it out. Willingness is all that is required You just have to be willing to open to the idea that there is a gift in it somewhere, and then choose peace. It really is that simple. When we get used to thinking this way, it's amazing how simple and easy life becomes. It's so freeing to stop resisting (judging) life and surrender to what wants to naturally occur. Life with Radical Forgiveness can be very sweet.

5. Integration
After you have allowed yourself to be willing to see the perfection in the situation, it is necessary to integrate that change at the cellular level. That means integrating it into the physical, mental, emotional and spiritual bodies so it becomes a part of who you are. It's like saving what you have done on the computer to the hard drive. Only then will it become permanent. I find that breath work is the best way to integrate this work and I seldom ever do a Radical Forgiveness workshop without what I call a 'Satori' breath session. Other ways to integrate is through speaking affirmations, walking, doing forgiveness worksheets, ritual and ceremony.

In the Forgiveness Tools section of my book I give extensive instruction on how to use the forgiveness worksheet. This simple tool embodies all the above steps and has proven most effective in helping people to shift the energy around situations. The same is true of a process called The 13 Steps to Forgiveness, which is the same process but on CD. It simply requires you to listen to 13 questions to which you answer "Yes." It sounds so simple - and it really is. But it is also extremely powerful.

Radical Forgiveness is the only real forgiveness. It is simple, quick and brings immediate relief. This forgiveness is permanent and when one has integrated it well enough into everyday life for it to become a way of life, life becomes infinitely less stressful, more peaceful and a whole lot happier.

About the Author:
Colin's Mission Statement: "My Mission is to Raise the Consciousness of the Planet and to Create a World of Forgiveness by 2012"

Colin Tipping is the SelfGrowth.com Official Guide to Forgiveness and the creator of what has come to be recognized as the most powerful leading-edge technology for personal and spiritual growth today - Radical Forgiveness.
He is the acknowledged authority on the application of this technology to the "healing" of individuals, families, races, corporations, and communities. He is the author of five popular, ground-breaking books:


                                     
http://www.selfgrowth.com/guide/ColinTipping.html to learn more about Colin and other Radical Forgiveness strategies.

Radical Forgiveness: Making Room for the Miracle
A Radical Incarnation: Mission - A World of Forgiveness by 2012
Spiritual Intelligence At Work
Radical Manifestation: The Fine Art of Creating the Life You Want
Getting to Heaven on a Harley: A Radical Karma Workbook

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Sunday, June 26, 2011

Learn to be HAPPY!!!

"Happiness does not depend on your circumstances; it depends on your will. It's a choice YOU make." Joel Osteen

This is a philosophy that I constantly promote. I've always believed that happiness and misery are choices. The behaviors involved in both are learned behaviors. If a child grows up in a negative household and does not learn coping skills  congruent with happiness, he/she will have more difficulty as an adult being happy. If people surround themselves with negativity, then that's what the environment will be like; that's what your mindset will be like...negative.

As we travel the journey of life, there will be challenges, inconveniences, and surprises. Everything is not going to work out as we plan it, so learning to adjust to life's monkey wrenches is a good thing. 

Learning to take it easy, relax, and be more flexible helps. Starting the day with an attitude of, "today is going to be a good day", also helps change the overall mindset. When you think an obstacle is before you, try changing your focus and/or adjusting your goals.

You've heard people using the words "always", "never", "nothing", "ever"? most of the time, these words are used when people are catastrophizing, minimizing, and assuming/mind-reading. They're all cognitive distortions when used in a negative way. It's important for us to change our "stinking thinking", to more productive thoughts.

"Train your mind to see the good. Get rid of any negative, conditioned responses. Everybody around you may be complaining, but you can find the good in every situation." Joel Osteen, Become a Better You.

Smile more. Do things for other people, even if it's a simple as holding the door open for someone, or remembering the grocery store cashier's name. Treat yourself well by eating right, exercising, and meditating. Associate with positive people. LOVE YOURSELF!!



                                                                                                                    















                                                                                                                                                            















                                                                                            















                                                                                                              















Erin A. Alexander, LPC (https://brighterfuturee-counseling.com)

Wednesday, June 22, 2011

How to Overcome Procrastination - By Kate Stewart

You've got a great idea for a business. You need to lose 10 lbs. You have a major report to write. But it's not getting done. You're not alone and it's not your fault.
For most people, the major challenge in life is not handling a crisis. No...it's the daily demand to stay with the program. To accomplish your tasks day after day. To keep going in the face of drudgery, frustration, and boredom. Consistently choosing to do what needs to be done rather than what you want to do.


1. Don't feel guilty -- it's not your fault. Mark Twain said, "Never put off until tomorrow what you can do the day after tomorrow." 95% of people admit to procrastinating. A quarter of these say procrastination is a chronic characteristic. Is it laziness? Is it perfectionism? Only rarely. Instead, it's evolution.

The limbic system, or "reptile brain", evolved early in our primate history and is similar to that of most creatures. It is controlled by instinct and enables us to meet our immediate survival needs. The prefrontal cortex, or executive function, evolved much later. Its job is to analyze and plan future benefits. Usually the limbic system and prefrontal cortex work together effectively. But when the limbic system is stimulated by immediate sensations, procrastination results. The long horizon view of the prefrontal cortex is cast aside to satisfy immediate desires. It's not our fault but we have to deal with it.

2. Know when procrastination makes sense. Sometimes putting off tasks is more productive than compulsively tackling them. Do you have a niggling sense that you need more information, a different perspective, or better timing for your task? What you (and others) may see as procrastination may instead be resistance to the task due to an almost unconscious or instinctual recognition that delay is best.

When this happens, identify what you're waiting for and plan flexibly based on this knowledge. Work on another task until you have everything you need to give ample attention to the first one.

3. Identify your procrastination triggers. The more impulsive we are (see #1), the more we avoid the anxiety related to deadlines or long-term tasks. No, it's not logical. Yes, it's self-defeating. And yes, we all do it.

Spend time identifying what triggers your impulsiveness. Are the birds singing and golf course beckoning? Ask a friend to hide your clubs until the project is completed. Does a nap seem more inviting than writing that report? Plan your most important work first thing in the morning while you are still fresh.

4. Keep moving. I've been reminded more than once that it's easier to rudder a ship that is already moving. In those moments when you are tempted to take a break to avoid an unpleasant task, resist. Energy in motion tends to stay in motion. If you work at another task instead of resting, you will find it easier to approach the unpleasant task. Energy at rest tends to stay at rest. That one is self-explanatory.

5. Examine your self-talk. If you, like me, can easily justify tweaking your website rather than calling that difficult client, your creative self-talk is probably highly evolved. When it works against you, this is not a good thing. Take the time to listen to your reasons for procrastinating. Are they excuses or valid reasons? Most of the time, our justifications have enough truth in them to trick us.

Is your justification entirely true? If not, correct it. For instance, you dread cold calling and tell yourself "I can't make that cold call until I feel more confident (or know more about the product, or practice, etc.)." Is that entirely true? Perhaps you can begin with a few low-risk prospects and learn your technique quickly through making a few calls. Identifying your false self-talk can lift major barriers to productivity.

6. Don't visualize success...alone. Visualization has been all the rage for the past decade or so. All types of people are enjoying mental images of their future success in the hopes they will attract it. Does it work? Yes and no. Visualization alone tricks your brain into thinking you have already completed your task. This diminishes motivation.
Instead, imagine completing your task. Next, imagine what it will take to get you there. What obstacles and challenges will you face? According to the research, holding these two images in your mind simultaneously is the best guarantee you will reach your goal and overcome procrastination.

7. Use your energy wisely.You are like a power grid. If you allocate physical, mental, or emotional energy in one area, it decreases energy in other areas. Worry about that upcoming presentation devours energy needed to complete your present task. Multitasking reduces your ability in every area.

At the beginning of the day or the night before, determine your goals and priorities for the day. If possible, tackle them one-by-one. Use the strategies above to keep your mind on the task at hand. You may be very surprised at how much more productive you can be. And at how much more you enjoy your work.

About the Author:
Kate Stewart, Ph.D. is a certified mediator, author, organizational consultant, and executive coach. She recently founded the web-based Gold Scaffold system scheduled for launch in July 2011. The Gold Scaffold portal will enable people to overcome procrastination, impulsiveness, and weak willpower to achieve their goals. Dr. Stewart also authors a blog at
http://www.myscaffolds.com.

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Saturday, June 18, 2011

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Thursday, June 16, 2011

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Erin's Recommended Reading List

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Sunday, June 12, 2011

Book Review: Money Secrets of the Amish (Booksneeze.com)

Money Secrets of the Amish: Finding True Abundance in Simplicity, Sharing, and Saving by Lorilee Craker.

I found the book to be full of very practical, money saving ideas! Learning how to live simply is something that is a cornerstone of the Amish beliefs. Their philosophy is to use it up, make do without, rethink gift-giving, recycle, reuse, and as Ms. Craker put it, eat like royalty for a peasant's pittance. The author was able to creatively explore how the Amish people live happy lives without all the material possessions we're accustomed to in our society. This is a great book for a high school life skills class or economics course.
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Saturday, June 11, 2011

Sexuality Workshop attended

Yesterday, I decided to attend a workshop on the female orgasm. I know this sounds shocking, but think about it...I do quite a bit of couples counseling now, so educationally, I need to start thinking outside the box. I should be broadening my horizons with regards to what's really happening in relationships.

The workshop was presented by Melissa Jones, PhD, who is a trained professional sexuality consultant with an undergraduate studies in marriage and family therapy, and a master's degree in women's studies.

I was very impressed by the information provided and I will be referring couples to attend such workshops to enhance their relationships.

According to the brochure that Dr. Jones provided during the workshop, these are some of the areas she is able to address with people:

  • information, self-talk, thought patterns, and cultural framing
  • expressions, feelings about sex, capacity for intimacy, inhibitions
  • awareness of sexual anatomy and function, body image, learning skills, addressing sexual (dys)functions
  • buildup, containment, and expression, wellness
  • the sacred and Divine nature of sexuality, framing of beliefs
She is also able to help parents to engage in dialogue with children; she talks to teens about responsible sexual decision-making and emotional issues (with parental consent); and she does groups/workshops/presentations

For her contact info: doctor@mjsexologist.com
www.mjsexologist.com
210-487-0371

Thursday, June 9, 2011

Men and Mental Illness -- Subtle Signs to Look For

Men and Mental Illness -- Subtle Signs to Look For


A new report from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) revealed that nearly four times more men than women take their own lives -- a statistic I found breathtaking, all the more so when doing the math reveals that 75 men and boys kill themselves each day in the US. It has always seemed that women are more likely to suffer depression or mental illness -- and if you don’t agree with that statement, what names come quickly to mind when you think of celebrities with depression? Princess Diana, Marilyn Monroe, Brooke Shields and more. What characters are you likely to see in the role of "a person who needs help coping with life" on all those TV commercials promoting antidepressants? A woman. And in real life, when you hear the phrase "nervous breakdown," to whom does it usually apply? Yup -- a woman.


But that’s all anecdotal, not scientific. With the CDC’s new suicide numbers, it’s very clear that we have a cultural gap in our understanding of mental health in the US. Given the link between suicide and depression, the high rate of suicide among men is evidence that men’s depression is either not being treated or is not being treated effectively.


When I contacted Will Courtenay, PhD, an Oakland psychotherapist who is affiliated with The Centers for Men, Young Men and Boys at Harvard Medical School’s McLean Hospital, he told me that while extensive research of national databases suggests otherwise, the truth is that males are equally vulnerable... and sometimes actually more vulnerable to mental and emotional problems from early in life. He said there is a "cultural blindness" underlying the belief that males are stronger than females not only physically, but also mentally. In fact, Dr. Courtenay said, "Boys are at much greater risk than girls for many types of mental disorders." Examples of mental disorders that affect boys in greater numbers than girls are dyslexia, autism and attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD). And, said Dr. Courtenay, "Boys are also less likely to receive the care they need. For example, among children and adolescents ages nine to 17 years who are depressed, boys are less likely than girls to receive professional help."


Manning Up to the Facts


Nonetheless, even though it’s widely acknowledged that depression is rampant in our country, Dr. Courtenay noted that there’s more of a stigma attached to it in men because it’s seen as a sign of weakness.


These past few years have added fuel to this fire, because the recession has left many more men without work or facing the threat of joblessness. Men who have served in the military are also suffering post-traumatic stress disorder in record numbers. And it’s not just celebrities like Charlie Sheen or Mel Gibson who rant and throw public tantrums -- Dr. Courtenay said that such behavior is a common manifestation of men’s depression. Sometimes the irritability, anger and impulsiveness turns into violent behavior that includes not just temper tantrums and road rage but also domestic abuse.


Where women often turn to one another when suffering emotionally, men are generally less comfortable doing so -- as a result, said Dr. Courtenay, men often deal with depression by drinking and socializing with their friends less. Lacking support and feeling isolated, they become even sadder and more alone.


Truth In Numbers


If you need further convincing, here are some figures from the recent report by the CDC:

In the year studied, 2007, there were 34,598 suicides in the US -- 27,269 by males and 7,329 by females.

Among ages 15 through 19, 1,221 males committed suicide, compared with 260 females.

Among people between the ages of 20 and 24, 2,260 men committed suicide compared with 399 women.

In no age group did more women than men take their own lives.
What to Look For... What to Do


Dr. Courtenay said it is important for men (and the women who love them) to be on alert for feelings and behavior that can be symptoms of mental problems -- including hopelessness... inability to sleep... irritability... outbursts of anger... incidents of aggression... and even frequent headaches or other physical symptoms with no medical explanation, as these often are associated with factors contributing to chronic depression. Especially worrisome: Any addictive behaviors, including those involving gambling, pornography, sex, overeating and, of course, abusing drugs and/or alcohol.


It’s true that everyone -- male, female, healthy or unhealthy -- feels sleepless, irritable, anxious and/or frustrated from time to time. I asked Dr. Courtenay how partners can recognize a deeper problem and then help. In general, he said, seeing a qualified mental health therapist is the best course for a man who is depressed or who may be heading that way...

Watch for signs of the symptoms mentioned above that go on for some period of time.

Encourage him to go for a consultation. As a general rule, avoid using the word "therapy." Instead, say something along the lines of "It could be a smart move to get a consultation" or "Everyone needs a teammate or a coach sometimes" or "It really makes sense to speak with an expert." Ironically, Dr. Courtenay said, one way to get some men to agree to try therapy is to play to their image of themselves as tough -- by essentially asking them, "Is it more manly to avoid dealing with a problem or to face up to it directly with the best tools available?" The answer is obvious -- "man up" and see a therapist!Let him know that the costs (risks) of untreated depression can be great -- he probably doesn’t realize this. And when educating men, the key is high information with low pressure. So, put some articles on his nightstand. If he just begins to think about getting help, he doubles the chance that he’ll actually do it.

For parents with boys who might have problems, Dr. Courtenay said...
Be aware of these behaviors: Withdrawal, aggression, doing worse in school, or a sudden change of interests.

Keep in mind that boys are highly unlikely to confide in their parents about psychological problems. Few would say directly, "I’ve thought about killing myself."

At the first sign that a boy is struggling, ask what’s going on. Communicate that it’s OK to ask for help. Boys may be more comfortable speaking with someone other than a parent. If that’s the case, don’t take it personally. Encourage your son to speak with a trusted adult friend, a school counselor or a therapist who has experience working with boys of his age. It’s a sign of strength -- your own and his -- to get help when you need it.

Source(s):
Will Courtenay, PhD, LCSW, a psychotherapist in private practice in Oakland, California. He is founding editor of the International Journal of Men’s Health and author of Dying to Be Men: Psychosocial, Environmental, and Biobehavioral Directions in Promoting the Health of Men and Boys (Routledge). Dr. Courtenay’s latest project at The Centers for Men, Young Men and Boys at McLean Hospital, Harvard Medical School, Belmont, Massachusetts, is research into postpartum depression in fathers. http://www.themensdoc.com/.

Tuesday, June 7, 2011

ATTENTION MEN: What Do Women Want?

Good evening guys. Have you ever wondered what women want? Or do you think you're one of the fortunate guys that already knows what women want? Lucky you!

I had a conversation with a male friend who enlightened me. He has never had a shortage of female company and he revealed some of his secrets. One of the secrets is reading WOMEN'S MAGAZINES.  Yep, that's right, women's magazines: REDBOOK, COSMOPOLITAN, FITNESS, SELF, GLAMOUR, ELLE, ALLURE, THE OPRAH MAGAZINE, etc.

I guess you're wondering what you could learn from a woman's magazine, right? Take a look at the list below of the various topics:
  • Beauty
  • Health and Fitness
  • Fashion
  • Life
  • Love
  • SEX
  • Feelings
  • Men
  • Guys and SEX
  • Gossip
  • Self image
  • Having a good time
I was also told that when a guy isn't afraid to drink Smirnoff Ice with a woman, that lets her know he's very sure of himself. He has nothing to prove by having a beer (like he does with "the guys"). Interestingly true!

And what about when you first meet a girl? What do you really know about her after the first meeting? Superficial things? What she looks like? Or what she likes? What do you tell your friends? "Hey, I met this really hot chick?" Or, "I met this great girl?"

Finally, when you meet a girl, what are her interests? Does she like Dancing? Competing? Wine tasting? Hiking? Boating? How will you connect with her?

FYI, hopefully you're not taking her to a movie (where there will be no conversation)! Hopefully, not to a quiet intimate dinner with red roses, either. Take her to lunch, coffee, or hiking! Then you can actually talk to her!

Ms. Erin

Saturday, June 4, 2011

Learn to Live in the Present Moment (#10 in Don't Sweat the Small Stuff Workbook, by Richard Carlson)

To a large degree, the measure of our peace of mind is determined by how much we are able to live in the present. When we allow past problems and future concerns to dominate our present moments, we end up anxious, frustrated, depressed, and hopeless.

1. First, realize that in order to cherish the now, we must make peace with the past. List those things that I've done or said in the past that I still regret today. Also include regrettable things that others have done or said to me that still sting.

I know I've said mean things to people in lieu of being physically aggressive. Many of these things I do regret. Some of them I don't. I apologize when I'm truly sorry and I put it in the past. I know that words can be razor sharp and can cut a person to shreds (more than a physical blow, which can heal). I have also been told that sometimes my written words have been hurtful, even though that was not my intention. Sometimes people may misinterpret my "getting to the point" as rudeness, when it is not. I just need to be more sensitive, I suppose. Regarding regrettable things that have been done to me, I don't hold grudges anymore. When someone apologizes, I consider it over. There have been several instances where I got no apology; I don't care anymore. My philosophy is, what goes around comes around, and when it does, I won't lose sleep over what comes around.

2. Make a list of what worries me about the future. What am I afraid of?

I worry about my business being successful and I worry about my health. I'm doing everything in my power to create a successful business, and I'm taking care of my health (by eating right, exercising, and having a lot of me-time).

3. How much time do I spend worrying about problems that never come to pass?

Not a great deal of time. I think it through and pray about it. If I've done my part, I count on God to do His.

4. List things that I've been putting off until "someday".

There are so many! I put off getting a housekeeper to thoroughly clean my house. I procrastinate with most of my homework. I procrastinate with my work (doing the billing, etc). I neglect my social life.

Do I think I have control over the things in my life? For the most part, yes. That's why I get through life as a "thinker" instead of a "feeler". If I use logic, reason, and good judgment then I can get my goals accomplished.

Ms. Erin
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